The Beauty of Marriage.

Theme: The Beauty of Marriage.   Preacher: Pastor Obwanga Samuel    Church: Awoja B.C    Date:3/11/2018

Text: Ge 2:18 And the LORD God said, "It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable (Equal) to him."

Marriage is one of the most powerful covenants in the world today. It has the power to bring untold joy, happiness, peace, satisfaction, companionship, intimacy and love to us. No other human relationship can go as deeply as the marriage relationship. At the same time, marriage can also bring more pain, more misery, more isolation, more frustration, more grief and more sorrow than any other human relationship.

As some in this crowd would tell you, sometimes marriage doesn’t end up the way that we want. But that’s not a reason to avoid marriage. That’s just a reason to make sure we have the proper expectations of marriage.

Too often we fall victim to a cultural expectation of marriage that far exceeds anything God ever created it to be. We look to marriage to be the end all of happiness and purpose in life. We expect our spouse to be ‘the One,’ to be completely perfect, put together, to completely submit their needs and wants to ours, to assist us in the achievement of our goals, all the while filling us with the love, purpose, and fulfillment we have yet to be able to find. We expect our spouses to give us what only Christ can give us.

Joyce Mary, Samuel’s good looking, but he’s not Jesus. He’s going to let you down. He’s going to make mistakes. If you’re looking for him to complete you, you’ll be sorely disappointed. Only Jesus can give you the happiness and purpose that you’re looking for. Samuel, Joyce Mary is an incredible person, but she’s not Jesus. She’s going to make mistakes. She’s going to show her imperfections. Only Christ can give you the hope and purpose that you ultimately crave. Bretheren, when we set our spouses or potential spouses up with expectations that only Jesus can fulfill, then we set them up for failure.

If marriage isn’t about finding the one person who will make you complete and take all your problems and loneliness away, then what’s the purpose of marriage? Marriage is about happiness, about companionship, about oneness and reproduction, but ultimately, it’s about God. God created marriage to give us a living picture of Christ’s love for the church. That’s why the Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church,” and “wives submit to your husbands as the church submits to Christ.” Marriage, ultimately, is a spiritual endeavor. Without Christ’s help every step of the way, we will fail.

When you pursue marriage merely as a means to be happy, you’ll eventually be disappointed. But if you approach marriage with the idea that it’s more about making you holy than making you happy, you’ll discover the true meaning of marriage. One thing marriage is great for is showing your faults, your selfish tendencies, the little parts of you that you can hide from everyone else except your spouse. As you struggle as two sinful human beings trying to make a marriage work, you’ll continually realize your dependence on God for success.

As you continually invite God into your marriage to change you (not your spouse), to change you into the husband or wife you need to be, you’ll experience his presence in ways you never thought possible. You’ll begin to be a better husband or wife, you’ll begin to look more like Jesus, and in the process, you’ll discover that deeper joy and purpose that you’ve been looking for all along.

Marriage is the most beautiful experience in the world. Samuel and Joyce Mary, I rejoice with you as you begin this journey together.

Things to Take Note in Marriage.

Husband/Wife

Proverbs 5:15 Drink water from your own cistern (reservoir,) and running water from your own well.,

Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor.

Wife

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD. Proverb 18:22

She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. Proverb 31:12

An excellent (admirable, Outstanding) wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. (wife) Proverbs 12:4

Still another said, 'I have married a wife, and therefore I cannot come. Luke 14:20

Likewise, their wives must be reverent, not slanderers, temperate, faithful in all things. 1Ti 3:11

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own (personal, private, specific) husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,

 1Pe 3:1

Husband

When a man has taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war or be charged with any business; he shall be free at home one year, and bring happiness to his wife whom he has taken. De 24:5

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:28

Wife, never call your husband my man, and Husband never call your Wife Woman for

v  Man is (Bloke, Guy, chap, male, fellow, casual friend)

v  Woman is (lady, female, casual friend)

v  Wife is (partner, companion, spouse, helpmate etc.)

v  Husband is (other half, partner, companion, Significant other)